Jonathan is so funny. We left him with some friends tonight for their teenage daughter to babysit. As we were leaving, he started talking about wanting a Nintendo DS. I just shook my head since we have been down this road before. He isn't ready for one. So, he says, "maybe I can buy one with my own money." I said, "when you have some." I told the mother he owes us 200 dollars. Jonathan pops out with, "no, 201 dollars." Funny boy - it had to be accurate!
We are really trying to help him get this worked down to nothing. He needs to feel that he has succeeded at this. He likes to keep himself in the mode of having problems and issues to deal with. He likes his life to be negative. We are making him do chores and paying him well right now to get this down quickly. It has been up at this level for months and he keeps it up. Sad, isn't it?
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Long Time
I haven't updated in a long time. There has been quite a bit that has happened and quite a bit of stress. I don't want to get into all of that. I have other blogs that I vent all of that on. This is technically my "fun" blog. But, just for a quick update on life.
Our oldest son and his wife are unexpectingly expecting. lol We are thrilled!! My husband has been itching to hint for grandbabies ever since they got married in May '07. I have felt like I have been holding back a team of wild restless horses. I kept telling him to let them get settled; for him to get done with school and get a job. They were going to come for Christmas and he was talking about his hinting again. UGH!! MEANWHILE - I was seeing some interesting status messages on my daughter-in-laws facebook that made me question things. She has always talked about wanting babies since before they got married and the talk was increasing. SO, I told her that I was going to have to hold "Dad" back at Christmas time. We got a phone call, "you won't have to hold Dad back at Christmas time." LOL
Our daughter was pining for a certain young man all last Christmas break. I told her she was pining. She denied it with all her she had in her - kinda. I enjoyed giving her a hard time about this. In February, they began dating while in Guatemala. This summer she was home and went insane at being apart. But, she still questioned at times on marrying him - lol. She said their plans were to get married in the fall of '09. Oh, she can confuse her Mama. I got an e-mail from her young man. He wanted to know when would be a good time for him to call us. Hmmm He calls. You all guessed it!! We wait and wait to hear that he has asked her. We finally hear. So, the wedding date? May 16th!! YIKES!!
We had the blessing of having ALL of the kids down for Christmas. Our son and his wife, our daughter and her intended. In that time we had a wedding to plan. My daughter and her fiance did most of the planning. I asked some questions here and there. The biggest thing I did was go shopping for a wedding dress with her. We really felt the time crunch here. Had to do this over the break. She was returning to Canada after Christmas. The program they are in in college takes them to Guatemala and El Salvador from Mid January to the beginning of April. They will return to Canada and be there to finish classes until the last weekend of April. Then, she returns home and we have three weeks before the wedding.
It was VERY busy over Christmas!! Our little RAD boy raged a lot, but that wasn't all that unexpected. All the older kids concluded that they didn't understand this new method of parenting that we have. We use a lot of reverse psychology on him - works quite well with him. We also disappear sometimes when he has a rage and have a party. We ordered pizza one night while they were all here and we all holed up in a bedroom. They had all already disappeared into the bedroom to play a game when the difficulties had gotten going. When things kept going, we ordered the pizza and when it arrived, we joined them. We took our laptop in and watched "Lost." Our son sees that he is missing out on the fun and that there is no one engaging in his games. He tries to keep us engaged in "catch me if you can" and taunts us by coming at us and then backing away, hitting at us or he will throw things at us to get our attention.
The real blessing over Christmas was to see that we DID know how to parent. We HAD been successful. Our older two had reconnected well after the teenage years of wanting to separate. Not only that, their chosen ones were connecting into the mix well too. To hear the four of them laughing together, teasing and having fun was such a joy. To know that they could talk about us and come to conclusions that they didn't understand us - lol. To see them enjoy playing a game together and accuse each other of cheating and laughing about that. What joy!
We had a murder mystery dinner together. We had fun with that. This was something that I have wanted to do for years. I had never dreamed that it would be with my kids. I loved it. This was the best Christmas that my husband and I can ever remember having. Just had to catch things up a bit and share.
Our oldest son and his wife are unexpectingly expecting. lol We are thrilled!! My husband has been itching to hint for grandbabies ever since they got married in May '07. I have felt like I have been holding back a team of wild restless horses. I kept telling him to let them get settled; for him to get done with school and get a job. They were going to come for Christmas and he was talking about his hinting again. UGH!! MEANWHILE - I was seeing some interesting status messages on my daughter-in-laws facebook that made me question things. She has always talked about wanting babies since before they got married and the talk was increasing. SO, I told her that I was going to have to hold "Dad" back at Christmas time. We got a phone call, "you won't have to hold Dad back at Christmas time." LOL
Our daughter was pining for a certain young man all last Christmas break. I told her she was pining. She denied it with all her she had in her - kinda. I enjoyed giving her a hard time about this. In February, they began dating while in Guatemala. This summer she was home and went insane at being apart. But, she still questioned at times on marrying him - lol. She said their plans were to get married in the fall of '09. Oh, she can confuse her Mama. I got an e-mail from her young man. He wanted to know when would be a good time for him to call us. Hmmm He calls. You all guessed it!! We wait and wait to hear that he has asked her. We finally hear. So, the wedding date? May 16th!! YIKES!!
We had the blessing of having ALL of the kids down for Christmas. Our son and his wife, our daughter and her intended. In that time we had a wedding to plan. My daughter and her fiance did most of the planning. I asked some questions here and there. The biggest thing I did was go shopping for a wedding dress with her. We really felt the time crunch here. Had to do this over the break. She was returning to Canada after Christmas. The program they are in in college takes them to Guatemala and El Salvador from Mid January to the beginning of April. They will return to Canada and be there to finish classes until the last weekend of April. Then, she returns home and we have three weeks before the wedding.
It was VERY busy over Christmas!! Our little RAD boy raged a lot, but that wasn't all that unexpected. All the older kids concluded that they didn't understand this new method of parenting that we have. We use a lot of reverse psychology on him - works quite well with him. We also disappear sometimes when he has a rage and have a party. We ordered pizza one night while they were all here and we all holed up in a bedroom. They had all already disappeared into the bedroom to play a game when the difficulties had gotten going. When things kept going, we ordered the pizza and when it arrived, we joined them. We took our laptop in and watched "Lost." Our son sees that he is missing out on the fun and that there is no one engaging in his games. He tries to keep us engaged in "catch me if you can" and taunts us by coming at us and then backing away, hitting at us or he will throw things at us to get our attention.
The real blessing over Christmas was to see that we DID know how to parent. We HAD been successful. Our older two had reconnected well after the teenage years of wanting to separate. Not only that, their chosen ones were connecting into the mix well too. To hear the four of them laughing together, teasing and having fun was such a joy. To know that they could talk about us and come to conclusions that they didn't understand us - lol. To see them enjoy playing a game together and accuse each other of cheating and laughing about that. What joy!
We had a murder mystery dinner together. We had fun with that. This was something that I have wanted to do for years. I had never dreamed that it would be with my kids. I loved it. This was the best Christmas that my husband and I can ever remember having. Just had to catch things up a bit and share.
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