RAD Becca is Quite Funny

Our trips away from home with Becca get pretty funny sometimes. One trip, we had a bit of time before attachment therapy so we found a place to let the kids play in the snow. "Awesome Mom" had brought all the snow gear to keep them warm. Well, Jonathan decided to pee in his pants during play time, this was discovered as we walked into therapy. He got the special (plastic) chairs all evening. We were informed that he should wear these same clothes all the way home and of course we should make sure it was warm for him since he would get cold in wet clothes. Well, our little 9 year old who used to be cold all the time, seems to have warmed up lately. I suspect that hormones are starting to circulate a bit. For well over an hour, we hear a non-stop verbalization of, "I'm hot, I'm thirsty, it's hot in here, can we turn the heat down? It's hot in here, I'm hot, I'm hot, it's hot in here . . ." It got to the point that I just started cracking up. It was just too funny. And this was after the girl had decided to rage in her snow pants - lol - she kind of got herself started on the overheated track.

Another one of our trips to therapy, we had gone to marriage counseling first and then I took Becca to Toys-R-Us to grab a few gifts real quick them back to pick the guys up. It was a 20 minute drive there. She talked non-stop all the way. She used to be very, very quiet and still is quite often. We pulled off the freeway exit and she figured out where we were going and she says, "I want some ear phones because Jonathan talks all the time." I started chuckling and turned around and gave her a look and she said, "I just talked all the time, didn't I?" lol "Yes, honey, you did. I love you."

It really is quite a relief to be at the point to be able to laugh at the craziness of raising 2 children with attachment disorder. All the manipulation, control issues, trying to one-up me, twist my words, lying, stealing, deceitfulness, hiding things. A lot of it just cracks me up and I start laughing right in front of them. They are trying as hard as they can to make me really mad and I find it hilarious. What is sad is they are the mad ones - so I laugh and love them and call them on it.

My Sweet Becca

Becca wrote a note a few weeks ago, "Jonathan, can you wake me up". Now, you might not think this is such a bad thing but for my children this is VERY serious. Our attachment therapist told us we had to move bedrooms around to get her closer to us because of their behavior and was talking about having to split the kids up. So, when I found this note. I took it seriously and we addressed it in therapy. So here we are 2 1/2 weeks later and I am in a "toss it" mood. I find the note and look inside. It is a paper from church, it has a heart on it that says, "GOD LOOKS AT THE HEART!" I cracked up, she had crossed these words out in the same pen that she had written the note in. Isn't that just like us?!?!?! Actually, it gives me some hope that there is the beginning of a conscience developing in there.