Ups and Downs of Being RAD

Some interesting things came out tonight. We went to attachment therapy. We discussed Jonathan's rages. We discussed the 7 hour one. We talked about all the fish oil pills. I had forgotten that everytime my husband saw Jonathan he was munching on one of those pills or putting another one in his mouth. Well, at therapy tonight I found out the consequences of this. Jonathan got one of those old time fall cleaning outs. Guess he made a few trips to the old outhouse. By the way, I decorated the main bathroom with outhouse decor.

We got home and I wrote Jonathan's reading time on his reading log for school. I had already seen that he had written one in this morning and signed my initials. I had already talked to him about it. I pointed it out to my husband. He was questioning the date that Jonathan wrote down. 10/3 - didn't make sense for yesterday. It was the third. Then he noticed that the first entry was in August (8), next was in September (9) and so of course the third entry had to be in October (10). We about died laughing. My husband very dearly defended the sweet boy - he said, "it makes sense."

In therapy tonight, I helped Jonathan remember what he said to me this last week. He didn't want love because it makes him feel sad. He feels sad about love because he thinks about his birthmom and that she didn't love him. The AT talked with him. After a bit, I told him that the caseworker had told me that his birthmom had said that she just wanted him to be loved. Jonathan said a serious, "WHOA" and got quiet and serious. He had a totally contemplative look on his face. The AT then talked with him about how would the birthmom feel if she knew that he wasn't weeking to let his parents love him. Big things for an 8 year old to thing about.